Beyond the Blame Game.

Beyond the Blame Game.

Conflict may be met with open ears and an open heart.

Conflict is an unavoidable part of our lives because our beliefs and modes of being often contrast powerfully with those of our loved ones, acquaintances, and associates. Yet for all the grief disagreements can cause, we can learn much from them.

The manner in which we handle ourselves when confronted with anger or argument demonstrates our overall level of grounding and ability to calm our nervous systems, and the quality of our energetic states.

To resolve conflict, no matter how exasperating the disagreement at hand, we have the choice to approach our adversary with an open heart laden with compassion.

Judgments and blame can be cast aside and replaced with mutual respect. Conflict is frequently motivated by unspoken needs that are masked by confrontational attitudes or aggressive behavior. When we come at a conflict with curiosity and open to possibilitiesl, we empower ourselves to discover a means to attaining collective resolution.

Explore each party values and goals beyond current positions, shift from anger to an explorer mindset -curiously finding out what is in it for me/ us. As you do so, the energy between you and your adversary will change perceptibly, even if they are still operating from a more limited energy state.

If you listen thoughtfully and with an empathetic ear during conflict, you can transform clashes into opportunities, and expand your world view.

Convert conflicts in new opportunities to expand and explore, flex and connect the dots, and build bridges.

Curious & Flexible

Curious & Flexible

As we live, we will go through the processes of opening to new information, integrating it, and stabilizing our worldview.

Living in an information age, it is easy to become overwhelmed by the constant influx of scientific studies, breaking news, and even spiritual revelations that fill our bookshelves, radio waves, and in-boxes.
No sooner have we decided what to eat or how to think about the universe than a new study or book comes out confounding our well-researched opinion. After a while, we may be tempted to dismiss or ignore new information in the interest of stabilizing our point of view, and this is understandable.

Rather than closing down, we might try instead to remain open by allowing our intuition to guide us. In the end, only we can decide what information, ideas, and concepts we will integrate.

Remaining open allows us to continually change and shift by checking in with ourselves as we learn new information. It keeps us flexible and alert, and while it can feel a bit like being thrown off balance all the time, this openness is essential to the process of growth and expansion.

Perhaps the key is realizing that we are not going to finally get to some stable place of having it all figured out. Throughout our lives we will go through the processes of opening to new information, integrating it, and stabilizing our worldview. No sooner will we have reached some kind of stability than it will be time to open again to new information, which is inherently destabilizing.

If we see ourselves as surfers riding the incoming waves of information and inspiration, always open and willing to attune ourselves to the next shift, we will see how blessed we are to have this opportunity to play on the waves and, most of all, to enjoy the ride.

Shift Happens!